You mean that the engine is slow to drop revs? My S3 is the same, in fact occasionally when crawling in traffic it likes to hang on 1800-2000 RPM for a second or 2 when I depress the clutch then slowly drop off. I've just replaced the PCV so it's not that and I'm also looking into it to see if it's an issue but I'm finding a lot are saying that it's a characteristic of the engine. Anyway I'm waffling now
The only thing I can put it down to is the particularly heavy Dual Mass Flywheel. It will carry a lot of inertia and as such slow the deceleration of the engine. I'm hoping that fitting the Single mass Flywheel with the new clutch kit I've ordered from the States will go a long way to help the issue.
As for the throttle response I've never found fly by wire throttles to be as responsive as a traditional cable. I know that there are linear throttle maps that can be applied which may help but I haven't got to that stage yet. Adding a CAI kit and upgrading the DV has made some difference on my S3 but not what I'd call Night and Day. That said it might make a bigger difference on the more strangled A3.