In fact, it is something that requires time and commitment.It's a big job and yes quite a commitment as you can't stop midway, I actually took a week off work for it
I doubt the new headlight switch would work with the CECM as there must be internal differences to account for the extra connector. To be honest it's not that important, if you don't have it fitted at all the headlights will default to be turned on, so you can still use the car while you work on that
Regarding the extra connector of the light switch, I imagine as you say that it will not work, I will still try it and let you know if it works. Otherwise I will put the old light switch back.
I understand that at the configuration level you did not have to do anything about this extra connector on the light switch, so if I connect and it doesn't work, there is nothing else I can do.